How to Argue in a Marriage

Arguing is an effective way to resolve conflict. The question is, are you arguing in a constructive way?

A Few Tips on How to Argue

It’s so easy to ‘point score’ in an argument and many couples get into the habit of caring more about who wins each bout than in rectifying problems within their marriage.

One way to address this is to ensure that whenever you argue the emphasis is to solve the problem and not to win the argument. This involves taking turns to speak and listening carefully to each other.

Make sure you respect each others feelings and opinions even if you can’t initially find common ground or an obvious solution you are both prepared to accept.

A few more Do’s and Don’ts of Marital Arguments

•          If someone is at fault and admits it then accept their apology and move on.
•          Don’t use past misdemeanors in new arguments.  
•          Say what you mean and mean what you say.
•          Be short on blame and long on forgiveness.
•     Talk in a calm voice; don’t shout or get angry or over-emotional.

Learning how to argue could just be the strategy you need to save your marriage today. 
It's never to late to save a marriage; the first step is learning how.